tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post3116212713591611653..comments2023-04-05T05:54:22.366-06:00Comments on Just Us Girls: WaffleGirlHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13361585193237968343noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post-23894355164296215862011-06-12T10:10:15.581-06:002011-06-12T10:10:15.581-06:00Hi ladies!
This is such a hard decision. I am li...Hi ladies! <br />This is such a hard decision. I am like Meg in that I am enjoying every moment with Owen and not wanting to change that. But in my heart I do want another child. In my case, though, I know that the logistics are too difficult and I haven't let my heart's desire overtake my reality. I just don't think I could "do it all" and still keep my job (and clearly, having a job is pretty darn important in this whole equation)! I still hold out for having baby #2 with a partner, crazy as that sounds! I don't have much time, either. Maybe 2 more years....? So like the other ladies I can't offer any hard advice, just reflections. <br /><br />Have you considered an Au Pair? I think the initial deposit is a lot but then you might be paying less per week for two kids than with daycare. Depends on your costs for daycare if that makes sense (in my area, daycare is $1100 / month).Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08518657316168437449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post-32740836474382793772011-06-05T21:46:41.418-06:002011-06-05T21:46:41.418-06:00I'm a waffle, too! The financial part is scar...I'm a waffle, too! The financial part is scary but I have to remind myself that daycare is temporary and all those extra nice things don't equal true happiness. I really want my son to have a sibling since the reality is that because I'm an older Mom he might be without me sooner than I would like and I don't want him to be alone. I really wish I had the luxury of waiting a few more years because I'm loving every minute of being a mom to my one and only little guy. I want to continue enjoying these moments and not shake things up just yet. Sadly, my age means that I don't have a few years to wait and I fear that I may have already waited myself out of a chance for #2. My plan right now is to purchase a few vials (3?4?6?) and put off a decision until the end of the summer. I have lots more thoughts about this that I'm trying to work through and it's really too bad that you, me and Ms. Rapids can't meet for a playdate and chat.Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07307479510589425666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post-80468192969276446652011-06-05T15:25:03.348-06:002011-06-05T15:25:03.348-06:00THANK YOU, THANK YOU, girls, for your comments!!! ...THANK YOU, THANK YOU, girls, for your comments!!! I so appreciate your perspectives, and I know it will help as I make this difficult decision. :)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13361585193237968343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post-85476075615377056862011-06-05T13:33:16.230-06:002011-06-05T13:33:16.230-06:00From someone who didn't really have a choice (...From someone who didn't really have a choice (technically I did but not really for me), I can relate to what you are feeling! If I only had one, I would not have tried for a second child for the reasons you mention plus my age. Some days I shake my head that this is going to just get harder raising twins on my own but MOST days I am overjoyed that I have two and that they have each other. <br /><br />I was talking with a friend one night and I told him I felt like they would miss out because being two I won't be able to afford what I might otherwise be able to if there was one. (if that made any sense) I was talking about activities, culture, events, etc. He said without missing a beat that he thinks because they have a sibling it makes up for that and so much more. When I'm gone, they will still have each other. And he's right. <br /><br />I won't kid you - it's hard. I do have full time child care in my home and that is a DREAM (but not free) and I do have my mom who helps a lot but I am on my own every night and on the weekends except for part of Sundays. I am lucky my children have been healthy and were not too fussy as newborns. <br /><br />I hope my perspective helps some. I get your fears about pregnancy. I imagine everyone has those same fears. Good luck in your decision. I guess I am lucky mine was made for me. And I do believe I am lucky!MeAndBabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01621038133156116317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post-44586915094439100312011-06-04T20:24:30.408-06:002011-06-04T20:24:30.408-06:00It's not an easy decision. My best advice is ...It's not an easy decision. My best advice is to store several vials (I purchased six). You can revisit this question in six months to a year. I really didn't think I'd get pregnant a second time but I felt like by making an attempt I'd be able to tell Henry (and me) that I had tried and our family was meant to be us two. After L was born I had the feeling that our family would have been just fine either way. (That doesn't diminish my love for him, it's just how I felt for most of that first year.)Laraf123https://www.blogger.com/profile/13283945251427328960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7739107438723417053.post-40326557654778065152011-06-04T17:06:12.324-06:002011-06-04T17:06:12.324-06:00I have the same battle in my head every day, and t...I have the same battle in my head every day, and the closer I am to my RE appointment, I am no less conflicted.Navigating The Rapidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136888490226094765noreply@blogger.com